📅 Thought for today:

‘Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.’

— Byron Katie

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This is a recurring theme in my therapy room, something I hear a lot.

And I really and truly understand when a client says, “THEY made me cross.”

The truth of the matter is that you made you cross. They did something, that is indisputable (mostly), and you became cross (angry). However, this is not necessarily cause and effect.

You always have a choice.

You can see someone do something and choose how you respond.

To do so, you need to notice the feelings and understand them.

You cannot choose if you are not thinking.

This is a lot of my work, lifting conscious awareness in moments of emotion.

The light that shines on a client’s face when they take back control is such a gift.

It is why I do what I do.