📅 Thought for today:
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‘Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough.’
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— Brené Brown
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#thoughtfortoday #shame #shaming #parenting #conflict #fear #emotions
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I have quoted Brené Brown on shame before.
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Shame came through our work as a group last week and something happened this morning that demonstrated shame in action.
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In the park, as I took my walk this morning, there was a mother pushing a small boy on a bucket swing.
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Standing watching was an older woman, almost certainly the grandmother of the child.
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The mother commented, “your feet are higher than my head”, at which point the child started to feel uncomfortable.
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“Please stop Mummy”, said the child.
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The grandmother commented from the side, “you don’t want to be a coward do you?”
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And shame took hold.
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The child, in a conflict between fear and shame, started to cry, the mother stopped the swing, and the grandmother laughed.
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I am still sad about this demonstration of shame in the system, several hours later.
