Month: March 2022

📅 Thought for today: ‘It’s not everyday you get to do a pirate movie, you might as well go for it.’ — Keira Knightley #thoughtfortoday #opportunity #goforit #pirates #luck How do you know an opportunity when you see one? If I close my mind to opportunity, then I can be certain I won’t find one.…

📅 Thought for today: ‘Why can’t I be different and unusual… like everyone else?’ — Viv(ian) Stanshall #thoughtfortoday #different #unusual #normal #conforming #shame I am often asked by clients, “Am I normal?” It is most often asked in the context of what they are experiencing at that time – they are asking if other people…

📅 Thought for today: ‘Be realistic with your expectations. I’d really like to cuddle a unicorn, but it ain’t going to happen.’ — India Knight #thoughtfortoday #expectation #realistic #unicorn #goals #coaching The client sets a goal for himself. It is not particularly realistic – it is what he wants though. The timeframe makes the goal…

📅 Thought for today:   ‘Celebrate endings – for they precede new beginnings.’   — Jonathan Lockwood Huie   #thoughtfortoday #endings #client #clients #celebrate #beginnings #space   I have had several client endings in recent weeks.   This is remarkable (as in, worthy of the remark) because, in my one-on-one work with clients, I don’t…

📅 Thought for today: ‘People often judge themselves according to whether others find them acceptable or wanting.’ — Janet Tolan #thoughtfortoday #locus #evaluation #carlrogers #judgement #expectation #MotheringSunday This is not a mainstream quote, it is actually taken from a Psychotherapy textbook. Carl Rogers called this an external locus of evaluation. When we don’t trust our…

📅 Thought for today: ‘Taking time to do something slower than you normally would is a privilege that should not be ignored.’ — Harper Reed #thoughtfortoday #takingtime #slowdown #urgency #rush #haste #fear My students are often surprised, or sometimes impatient (the irony) when I suggest that they need to slow down. They are rushing to…

📅 Thought for today: ‘What must I do to be at peace with myself so that I may live presently and die gracefully?’ — Alua Arthur #thoughtfortoday #meaning #existential #crisis #peace #present #die #gracefully Existential crisis (“what is my purpose, why do I live”) is something that comes up with clients often. This is in…

📅 Thought for today: ‘Having a bad boss isn’t your fault. Staying with one is.’ — Nora Denzel #thoughtfortoday #bad #boss #management #customers #employees #wellbeing Three conversations this week had been interestingly connected. One was with a client, one with another coach, and one with a friend. The threads connected on one simple point –…

📅 Thought for today: ‘Always the beautiful answer who asks a more beautiful question.’ — E E Cummings #thoughtfortoday #questions #answers #coaching #psychotherapy #helping #supervision A good proportion of my work involves listening carefully to what my clients say. As well as how they say it, how they express it (non-verbal communication) and what they…

📅 Thought for today: ‘Empathy makes good people better, then, because kind people don’t like suffering, and empathy makes this suffering salient. If you made a sadist more empathic, it would just lead to a happier sadist’ — Paul Bloom #thoughtfortoday #compassion #candor #candour #rational #psychologicalsafety Paul Bloom is the author of “Against Empathy: The…